World is full of surprises, after months of healing my broken heart, I start to open up and I met some great man (and also some other "eww" man). At this point, I just realize that there is plenty of fish in the sea.. And I am grateful to have to go through the painful state before this phase. That makes my expectation so low towards new men that I'm gonna meet, and I'm really surprised on how they treat me, they do know how to treat a woman! 

One thing that they do have in common: they want a woman that want to struggle with them and become their supporter when they are weak and full of problems. Some takeaways that I learned from men that I meet:

What these man want from a woman:

- not a gold digger (except you're pretty, he is rich, and he doesn't have another option)

- complimenting them

- no competition with another man, never talk about another man except he starts first

- laugh at their jokes, even a bad one. Smile and it will get into his heart.

- try to return the favor, if he treats you the meal, and you guys go to coffee shop afterwards for more talk, treat them the drink! Or if they still refuse, treat them on the second date. They will see this as a big green flag of "not a hoe" and "not a gold digger", this also show you have good manners.

- don't be busy with your phone, put it on silent and enjoy quality time with him, it shows that he is important to you

 

After having a successful first date, don't be too available for him. Let him chase you. Some feminism thought might say that woman can chase a man first in this modern era however our minds are still in factory mode settings lol, so most man will prefer to have the decision on them, or at least thinking that it is their decision to go after this woman. So I'll just leave a little reminder here, for any woman who wants to attract a man: spark your feminine energy rather your masculine one. Let him wait. Let him think of you. Be available at some time but not at other time. Even if you really do like him since the beginning, don't make it look too obvious. Drop hints on your social medias that you're into him, subtly. This will at least make him think that he is the one that make the decision to start loving you. These are a "feminine way" of manipulating a man's feelings, and it always works! hahaha... Tell these secrets to your man after you guys make it official, and believe me, he will be very happy to know that you already into him from the beginning ;)

Dear Mr. HL, thank you for accepting who I am.. let's know more about each other and lay low until the day we're ready to take some steps in the stairs further ♥